Authority

To Fear authority is to allow oneself to be subjected to the imaginary and mental constraints of inferiority, shackling all possible means of pushing limits and breaking boundaries. Respect authority and the need for it in any system to triumph as a community, but not Fear it.

2011

My new year resolution is to make 2011 the best year of my life.

From every perspective.

Why the hate?

Beneath all those layers of pretentiousness, we are only human.





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Ponder

If you know me any more, will you love me any less?




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Four Months

I have been working for 4 months.

I think I'm doing well.

I'm warming up to the environment, the people, and the lifestyle in general.

I am still desperate to learn everything I should know at my level, and then more.

I am hungry for success, and ascending up the corporate ladder.

I feel I'm just beginning to stray a little, but I'm going to nip it in the bud while I still can.

I suddenly have this thought that I am living the first chapter of my unwritten autobiography.

I want to lay the foundation here and now. I want to be excellent.

This is not a sports brand ad.


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Hurts

My mind is so conflicted and full of thoughts right now it's giving my heart an annoying aching feeling I have not felt in quite a while.

Times like these, any minor blip or paranoia becomes amplified I feel like I'm stuck in a never-ending whirlpool of trouble.

The shelter I have constructed for myself has gone missing.

I am in a dark and wet place. Cold, and alone.

Please be a better day tomorrow.

I have a satisfying life and am generally happy

but not a day goes by without an uncomfortable scene in which I screwed up flashing through my mind. Sometimes I replay painful conversations I've had with two friends who are now estranged. Why am I plagued by regrets?

You're "generally happy," yet you spend your life dwelling on the past--that doesn't really sync up, does it? Most of us cringe when we're ambushed by memories of that regrettable weekend in Cleveland or the bout of crying in the bathroom at the office party, but … every day? Regrets, we've had a few, but we suspect that when you reflect on the movie of your life, you're fast-forwarding through all the slapstick scenes and romantic banter to pause only on the distressing moments, which blows them completely out of proportion.

You can change the way you think about your past, says Wellesley professor Theran. Paradoxically, one way to do it is to stay with your feelings of discomfort as they arise. "Expose yourself mentally to the feelings of shame or embarrassment long enough to allow them to increase and then decrease normally," she says. "Of course you're inclined to avoid your shameful memories, but that's the way they maintain their power. Try to tell yourself that you don't have to be perfect and that we all do silly or embarrassing things."

And here's another reason to give yourself a break: Chances are good that what haunts you has already been forgotten on the other end. "We all tend to have a stronger memory for these kinds of things than other people do," says Theran.

RD